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How to Survive As a Couple After Children Arrive
At an American Association of Pastoral Counselors Conference in April 2005, Dr. John Gottman said that one of the crisis times in all marriages is when children arrive.
For some time we have been two and now we are suddenly three or more. Whether the addition is planned or unexpected changes will be required.
Some will go from a two income family to a one income, or one and a bit income. Even, if you continue as a two income that income now has to support more people and babies come with a lot of additional expenses..
One of the biggest changes is the loss of time, both as individuals and as a couple. No more spontaneous trips to the mall, restaurant, movies or other fun places. Vacations will take more planning and weekends away will be harder to manage.
Then there are the pressures to nurture healthy children so that they become healthy adults. How do we give then the best start possible and still find time for ourselves?
We go from being a couple to being a family overnight and therein, I believe, is a lot of the problem and also the solution to the problem. In order to survive the addition of children we need to maintain and nurture the couple within the family. How do we do this?
Dr. Keith presented "The Art of Couples Play" at the 10th Annual Smart Marriages Confrerence in Atlanta, June 2006.
American Association of Pastoral Counselors 44th Annual Conference in Portland, Or, April 26-28, 2007
The 11th annual Smart Marriages Conference in Denver, June 28- July 1, 2007
International Marriage Enrichment Celebration in Orlando, Fl, July 12-15, 2007
The 12th annual Smart Marriages Conference in San Francisco, July 2-5, 2008
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